It’s OK To Say strives to encourage people to talk! We want people to talk about their mental health and people to listen. Rejecting the stigma, we highlight how to go about it and the help available. It’s OK To Say is for everyone, reaching people of all ages from the early years without being specific to reason.
It’s OK To Say encourages people to speak up and put things in place to support daily needs rather than when things escalate. It’s OK To Say encourages parents, carers and professionals to lead by example, inspiring healthy and open conversations demonstrating It’s OK To Say and what can be gained by doing so.
If you feel you need help, then every day, you must be asking yourself questions of, what can I do? What is the first step? If I go to my GP, what if there is a wait period? What can I do to fill that gap? You may also be experiencing physical symptoms.
What about right now?
Right now, you can focus on the here and the now. What are you feeling? Do you know why you’re feeling this way? Below is a thinking tree diagram for you to follow to help you decide what you need to do right now.
We’re extraordinary and capable of gaining positive control. There is an overlap in physical and mental symptoms, so looking after yourself is imperative. It’s OK to consult your GP and talk through your concerns or the concerns of a loved one. Consider stimulants at this heightened time to include alcohol, caffeine and energy drinks. Consider your diet, learn a grounding technique (see below), practice mindfulness and have five ways to unwind from your day. Please do not underestimate the impact of these. It is OK and wonderful to evolve and reach for a better self.
Mindfulness is paying more attention to the present moment, to your own thoughts and feelings and then to the world around you. Mindfulness can help adults and children cope better with sadness, loneliness, fear and anxiety, anger and increase empathy for others. This naturally occurs, as we recognise negative thoughts as negative thoughts not facts, therefore we don’t engage with them as much.
It’s about allowing ourselves to see the present moment clearly, for exactly what it is. Knowing directly what is going on inside and outside ourselves. When we get caught up in our own thoughts that are the driving force behind our emotions and behaviour, we stop noticing the world around us.
Are you aware of how your body is feeling? An important part of mindfulness is reconnecting with our bodies and the sensations experienced. It puts you directly in touch with sight, sound, smell, taste and the present moment clearly. When we do this, a positive change occurs in the way we see ourselves and our lives.
Mindfulness helps us to:
- Become more aware, allowing us to enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better.
- Re-experience things afresh through a changed perspective.
- Become aware of the stream of thoughts and feelings we experience.
- Untangle ourselves from being caught in the web of that stream of thoughts and feelings.
- Learn to be kind, compassionate and helpful to ourselves.
- Learn to view our thoughts and see patterns of behaviour.
- Train ourselves to notice when thoughts are taking over, they’re intrusive and they do not have control.
- Learn to deal with the things more productively we find hard to let go of